Thursday, June 30, 2005

习惯

习惯,有时候是骇人的一件事。

因为习惯了某种相处模拟,让你忘记了珍惜对方。
因为习惯了当下的面貌,让你认定它只能拥有一个模样。
因为习惯了他/她的陪伴,让你误认为自己就是其生活的重心。
因为习惯了他/她的好,让你不能适应他/她的叛变。

也因为习惯,让你认为所拥有的一切是那么理所当然,不由自主地否定了所有外来的变动。
最后,让自己对外界免疫,察觉不到改变,更加让你害怕改变。

习惯得太久,大概也忘记了对它/他/她 的热忱,忘记了还没得到的期待,忘记了得到后的甜蜜,忘记了拥有时的满足。

这样的习惯一直持续,到失去的那一天方才突然觉悟,奈何,一切早已回到原点。

有多久没回家探望父母了,有多久没向挚爱表达爱意了,有多久没和朋友叙叙旧了?

不要习惯习惯,感情需要适时的加温,一句嘘寒问暖所带来的力量能超乎想象。没有人是理应对你好的,身边拥有这样的人,是种福气。不要让感恩的心离自己越来越远。

肯定对方,报于最真心诚意的感激。一个拥抱,一个眼神,一个亲吻,好让爱你的人感觉所有的付出没白费。



当我透过别人的镜头检视自己时,赫然发现,自己已得到得太多,远远超过所应拥有的...

是时候否定“习惯”了,你说,对吧?


Do not take someone for granted...
 
posted by Jinlan at 7:16 PM, |

5 Comments:

  At 8:42 PM Blogger Jason said:
"因为习惯了某种相处模拟,让你忘记了珍惜对方。

习惯得太久,大概也忘记了对它/他/她 的热忱,忘记了还没得到的期待,忘记了得到后的甜蜜,忘记了拥有时的满足。

不要让感恩的心离自己越来越远。"

I really want to copy and paste these 3 sentence and send to that somebody. Sighs... Very true...
  At 10:36 PM Anonymous phangan said:
想起一首歌,
“...总是在失去以后,才想再拥有...”
  At 10:23 AM Blogger ahsang said:
我一直相信,习惯可以杀死人。。。你觉得呢?
  At 2:04 AM Blogger Twinsmom said:
习惯了也就忽略了.
  At 7:39 PM Anonymous sinned said:
Ermm, another post that hit right in my heart. I always try to not to be used to a situation cos I don't want to be stubborn and not flexible. Nowadays, if you are too comfortable with your current life, you wont aware of the creeping danger surrounding you. Human should always learn to look forward to new things and challenge. I still far from perfect, but at least I will try to achieve that. I believe same thing apply in relatoinship, when one is moving while the other is staying in his/her comfort zone which he/she think thats what he/she deseve, then when things start to change, he/she will blame others... but not him/herself, who is the one not paying attention and putting effort in changing.